How to Make Your Kids BFFs

There’s nothing as great as when your kids get along — and nothing worse when they don’t. I’m so excited to have Sophia here, she’s an emotional intelligence expert, a mom of three with her fourth on the way and creator of the Q Wunder app, which my kids absolutely love. It teaches social and emotional skills in a really entertaining way.  Today we’re going to go over how to make your kids BFFs.

No Tattling

  • Tattle-telling breeds a feeling like “every man for himself” in your home.
  • So when your kids come to you and they’re telling on their brother or sister just say “you guys are on the same team, you can figure this out.” If they come to you saying, “he hit me,” everyone has different rules but kids just want to know they’re being heard and there’s some sort of judicial system in place in your home.
  • What I tell my kids is “you can tell on your brother or sister to get them out of trouble, but never to get them in trouble.  If your brother is doing something unsafe, come let me know, but if it’s something you’re trying to get them in trouble for, don’t tell me about it.”

Take Care

  • I love this because it yields immediate results. Studies show that if a child takes care of a sibling like investing time and energy or helping them out with whatever they need creates a bond.  
  • Try to encourage your older child every single day to help the younger one out with something. And then, even have your younger child help the older sibling. The little ones love helping their big siblings out and also creates an emotional bond that starts right away.

Let them be bored

  • Let them be bored together.  Whether your kids are in the car or in the living room, instead of giving them electronics, TV, or even coming up with a game for them to play let them come up with a game on their own.  
  • Not only does boredom breed creativity it really creates that bond. Instead of siblings seeing each other as an annoyance to their fun they’re part of generating the fun.

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Elle Walker is a co-founder at What's Up Moms and the mom to three kids (10, 7, 5). In her spare time, she loves testing out kids activities (often muttering, "Pinterest, you lie"), to find the best activities that minimize set-up, reduce costs, and uses stuff up around the house. Follow her behind the scenes at Instagram @whatsupelle. {{Privy:Embed campaign=591322}}