Look, the “perfect” Mother’s Day is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe you’re in the snuggles-with-the-kids-followed-by-a-family-picnic camp. Maybe all you want is 12 hours in a sensory deprivation tank without anyone speaking to you. Or something in between.
But it’s not news that for so many people, this is a complex holiday. Some have lost mothers; some are estranged from their mothers or grown children; other women are desperately yearning to become mothers. Countless women have spent the pandemic not surrounded by a bustling family life.
So what about making this Mother’s Day a chance to celebrate and lift up all the women around us? Let’s show all the women in our lives that they are loved and noticed. Here are a few ideas for how.
- Call. (Don’t text!)
- Pick her up for a shopping trip, even if it’s just to Tar-jay. (As if that’s not the dreamiest shopping trip, and we all can admit it.)
- Go for a hike together.
- Write her an actual letter. Handwritten, on stationery.
- Bring her lunch or order her lunch.
- Lift up her kitchen game with a meal starter kit, meal plan or snack kit.
- Bring over some delicious baked goods, of course.
- Pop over to her house, plop your cuddly baby on her lap for some smiles then leave the second the baby gets fussy. (Take the baby with you.)
- Appeal to her sweet tooth with some Dolly Parton ice cream.
- Gift her a few hours of a handyman’s (or -woman’s) time. Taskrabbit it or hire your go-to person to spend some time hanging art and doing all those tasks we never get around to doing.
- She spent the pandemic cultivating an indoor garden, so spoil her with a glass watering can that’s almost as pretty as her plants.
- Head to your favorite bookstore or library together. Or grab her a handful of books and deliver them to her.
- Book simultaneous hair appointments. Even a quick blowout is a treat. Or sit with each other as you get highlights and use the time to catch up.
- Put together a playlist for her day.
- Make her a personalized calendar featuring quotes she’d like and pics of the loves of her life — whether they’re pets, garden masterpieces, or humans.
- A fruit bouquet may just be the nicest gesture in the world. DIY it if you dare.
- Gift her a museum or garden membership.
- You can never go wrong with cheese, glorious cheese.
- Take an annoying errand or task off her plate. Helping with her spotty wireless connection or maxxed out photo storage is going to create space in her brain, and that’s a perfect gift.
- Brighten her day with a brilliant pop of color so she can tote around all her shiz in style.
- You know she’s itching to travel, so a good, old-fashioned city guide for the destination she’s been eyeing could be the right motivation for her to make it happen.
- Hit peak luxury—for under $20, holy cow—with a milk frother.
- The gift of a chic and super-portable folding chair will be perfect for all her outdoor gatherings this spring and summer.
- Bathtime chill pills are ideal, or try shower steamer pods for the non-bath women.
- Give her a chic cooler bag for picnic season.
- Do something for her house, like have her windows or carpets cleaned.
- Send her some good tea with a luxe cup. And a stunning kettle, of course. There’s also this extremely charming tea set for one.
- Sign her up for a yoga course.
- Frame a picture of the two of you together.
- Up her produce game with a mushroom discovery service or funky fruit subscription.
- Order a weighted blanket to keep her cozy.
- Offer to clean out a junk or clutter area that’s making her head hurt.
- Gift a cheeky t-shirt or an encouraging bit of cheer she can wear.
- Indulge in pretty soap and cream to heal her over-sanitized hands.
- Send your favorite book. Some suggestions: What Kind of Woman, Wintering, Dancing at the Pity Party, The Hill We Climb, Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief, Weed Mom, Revolutionary Mothering, The Book of Delights, Time Momagement, Rupi Kaur, Moms Don’t Have Time To
- Hire a service to come to her house to do a spring cleaning session (not because it’s a sty, but because who wouldn’t love it?) Bonus if you can take her out somewhere fun during.
- A stylish water bottle or to-go coffee mug to keep her hydrated and fueled.
- Treat her feet to a foot massager and the ultimate mom shoe.
- Give a cheery phone case, with proceeds going toward Stop AAPI Hate.
- Appeal to her sentimental side with a charm.
- Take her out for a spa afternoon or send her this luxurious facial steamer. Oh là là.
- Send flowers and a glam vase to put them in, naturally.
- Offer to take her Goodwill pile to Goodwill, or her digital recycling box to the recycle center. She’ll be grateful to get the trunk of her car back.
- Source a workout set to break her out of her usual sweats.